Note:I am writing this because most of my friends who were happily married once are unhappily divorced now. Not one or two but many in counting and two are at the crossroads of filing a legal battle with each other. In the following I have voiced out my opinions on the stories they shared.
Here’s a thought to ponder upon! Why do some people don’t even take a split second to go back to the primitive ape age? They react so angrily and without giving a thought to it, they jump to conclusions not wondering opportunities and options available. Some have rigid attitudes and some too flexible to be naïve. Others take pride in keeping their spouse at their finger tips like the Alpha male and Alpha female for packs of wolves. This is the evolution of our family systems. Families kept us bonded for generations and this bond is becoming weak with modernization. I suppose time will heal everything.
The life cycle revolves around doing ones nine to five job, getting home and spending time with family. This is the rigid and accepted practice. Otherwise the fairer gender at home will be smoking red with anger. At times, don’t we get late? Or we purposefully want to get ‘late’ for reasons other than getting ‘laid’. Oops! And if one’s not home frequently on the time one leaves office, in the mind of the one at home, it’s surely getting laid. What a preconceived and subconscious thought? Insecurity breeds with familiarity. I have come across such beings and they teach hard, that family is not everyone’s cup of tea. Not for now at least!
The evolution of Bhutanese practices on family has been the tool that kept families together and I read it years ago that people marry within the blood line not to let the wealth go out. If this is not happening now, certainly some fragments of this cultural practice must be alive. I am a Sharchop and some scorn at the very name. I have a reason to be mocked at because long ago our ancestors had the culture of marrying ones cousins-the golden cousins. Ask any easterner about it! This has become a debatable issue and for modernists, marrying within a blood line would be taboo.
This takes me years back to my college days, where an extempore speaker declared, “Women marry in haste and men with curiosity”. If divorce was what fate had in store for them (my friends), certainly it was a curable-mistake to have seen the person good to you playing the role of a humble spouse. If this is what you like not to believe, please refer to the legal issues and hassles handled by the judiciary in our country. It’s staggering-in all sense of the word.
Dear friends, play safe and don’t let your spouse think that GETTING LATE has something to do with GETTING LAID or vice versa.
Happy living folks!